HAPPINESS - Circumstantial or Conscious Effort??

In this huge and diverse world, there is a mixed bag of people with different kind of nature, qualities and characteristics. A few chunk of people lives on the extreme edge of rationality or on the other hand, some of them are way too emotional. The sentimental people usually have a very strong emotional side attached to them since most of the times they weigh their feelings much more than any other thing.

Undoubtedly, there are a number of perks of being soft-hearten. However, this type of personality trait carries its own risks as well. Such persons tend to get hurt more often than the breed that can move on from the things quickly. One of the reasons behind the same could be that the happiness of emotional people depends upon how the other person treats them. Good or bad behaviour of people can either make or mar their day. 

But ideally, that should not be the case, right? Why to blame someone else for your own unhappiness? Why to hold anybody else responsible for your situation? Why to jeopardize your bliss to someone else? Because, when it comes to reacting or perceiving the things, I think you yourself are in the driver’s seat!! Technically, your happiness should be completely under your control. You simply cannot let anybody’s words or acts ruin even a single valuable moment of your life, can you? Happiness is an inside job. So, just accepting responsibility for your own situation and forgiving others with a giant heart could definitely help you to live a happy and peaceful life.

'Being happy' is like a conscious choice. If you choose to be happy, just “be”, no matter what. If you can’t blame anyone for your unhappiness, similarly, you can’t also expect someone else to come and make you happy. You have to find your own happiness by indulging into something that you love or that relaxes you. Happiness is not like a goal in life that is to be achieved. It is a continuous reciprocating process. It is a by-product of an effort to make someone else happy. And I think this is a much simpler and probably the best way of identifying your own delight. All you have to do is just try to bring a smile on face of others and voila! There you are..!! All happy and cheerful..!! Could it get any easier???

I think, for me, happiness and contentment belongs in “moderation”. It’s a place that lies somewhere in between too much and too little. To unleash the hidden happiness, one has to enjoy both – the highs and the lows offered by the life. Stagnancy of anything won’t create satisfaction. Even though it is not much glamorous to talk about the failures, but still it is very important scale to teach the real value of success. In the similar fashion, happiness would clearly lose its meaning if it is not fairly balanced by sadness. There has to be a perfect rhythm of success and struggle. Therefore it is better to take things as they come along with patience and equanimity. The point of viewing everything in life can also create or destroy happiness for you. For example, we all have heard this phrase that –

“With great power, comes great responsibility.”

Now here, you can feel the weight attached to the sentence. But instead, just read it the other way round by simply switching the nouns i.e. –

“With great responsibility, comes great power.”

It completely changes the outlook of the sentence with a strong and positive vibe, doesn’t it?

A person becomes no longer happier as soon as he ‘WISHES’ to be happy since a person only wishes for those things which he doesn’t possess. So just stop wishing and start actually being happy! There are really immense little things in life to be happy and thankful about. So the next time when you visit God, rather than cribbing about your situation or asking for materialistic things, just try be grateful for all the bliss and the well-being he has already provided for. I would like to conclude by saying that there are only 2 aspects in life to aim at –   

1) To get what you want

2) To enjoy what you have got

Very few of the wisest of mankind gets the privilege to achieve the 2^nd one. Are you one of them? Think about it & do share your thoughts on the same... 😊

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